I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and two months, we’re both 18 and still in highschool. As you can guess, there’s an issue arising in our relationship: we haven’t had sex yet. Now, before you eat me alive, I have to explain that I come from a pretty sexually conservative hispanic family who’s main focus is for me to get a good college education and be successful in my career. That, for them, does not go along well with sex. They barely had the sex talk with me, I figured it all out for myself after their pathetic explanation telling me a man “pees” inside a woman. Great, I know. Anyways, me and my boyfriend have had a lot of fights about this, especially since he was my first serious boyfriend I had never even gotten as far as handjobs/blowjobs. Those alone took a long time to get to for me, three months for the handjob and three more for the blowjob. But now I do both on the regular and see how stupid I was for making the poor guy wait so long. Yet, being the normal teenage boy he is, sex is now the main goal. Although, I first have to give him credit and say he has always been very sincere and loving, saying that what matters to him is the unity, and from what he’s been through throughout his life and how his morals are set, I truly believe him, as should you. That is his main focus, because he is someone that values our relationship above all others and really wants to go the distance. That being said, he also wants it for the physical aspect. Duh. There were two times when I told him I would look for information and stuff like that, but I never did because I got to scared of the idea; I guess my parents scarred me with talk of unavoidable pregnancy. He got really upset that I had lied to him about doing the research, as he should have, and now I am on my third and last strike basically to really try hard to find all the information I can to be able to want to have sex with him, too. Because it’s not like I don’t. I do want the unity, I do want the physical aspect. But my fears of the consequences seem to overpower that. I’ve looked into contraception, and I’m thinking that the combination pill will work best for me along with a condom.
I guess what I just need is advice on contraception, personal experiences similar to mine, and other words of wisdom that will get me out of this reverie and finally let me see sanity and let me feel truly comfortable with the idea of having sex with him and having me feel unafraid of the consequences, knowing that whatever contraception method I use will pretty much work. Also, we’ve tried fingering to start stretching out my virgin vagina but I find that even him having one finger in me is quite uncomfortable and takes a while for it to go in smoothly. Any tips to help that as well would be appreciated.
TL/DR; Boyfriend of 1 year 2 months, both 18. Haven’t had sex yet; I always delayed anything sexual (handjobs, blowjobs, etc.), last strike to solve this issue with myself, need reassurance about contraception, similar experiences, words of wisdom/reassurance. Also, I seem to be the “tight” type. Tips for that as well? Get me out of this reverie so I can finally have sex with my boyfriend!
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