Well, if you haven’t…. I’m about to do it.
But, I don’t want this to be about me. I’m a girl. Been married 3-4 years. I’ve tried everything. Lingerie, talking to him about his sexual fantasies, doing/being/wearing what he likes….. etc. etc. etc. Hubby isn’t depressed. I haven’t gained weight. I suspected a low sex drive from him before, but we had a long distance relationship (for a couple years – overseas) before we married. When we seldom saw each other, we had lots of sex.
But, I would be lying if I said I didn’t suspect a low sex drive before we married. I suspected he would be less than my other partners – but nothing as low as this. Now, that we are married and living together for 2ish years, it’s worse than I imagined.
We have sex every 2 months or so. We were late 20s when we married. I’ve been in other relationships and I used to have sex daily or at least every other day.
It’s not only that there is no sex, but also no closeness…. no sitting on the couch together, no holding hands, no intimacy in any way (physical or emotional) …. nothing.
I’m not going to live my life this way. I refuse. Also, I’ve been telling him all this in no uncertain terms for over a year. He knows, but I guess he is unwilling/unable to comply.
I don’t really want advice for myself. I feel like I understand my situation. I know what I’m going to do.
I’m just wondering if anyone else has divorced/broken up for lack of sexual chemistry?
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