I would assume it to be a somewhat regular request for most guys, but it makes me uncomfortable even though I do enjoy porn sometimes myself. I feel this way because when I’m going down on him and he’s watching a porn, he just STARES at the monitor. He doesn’t respond to what I’m doing or look at me, so I feel like I might as well not be there. I feel like a sex object and he should just be jerking himself off. I give 110% every time we have sex, I do things that are way out of my comfort zone because I am willing to try them for him because I know they make him happy. I feel his focuses should be on me as mine are on him. So when we decide to be intimate, and he’s staring at a fucking computer screen, it makes me want to punch him in the head. Please help?
Edit: I have told him that it makes me uncomfortable, but he hacks it up to me being insecure about him watching another girl. Yes, this did bother me in the past, but I’ve kind of gotten over it by realizing that porn isn’t really about the people, it’s about the actions. However, this obviously wasn’t the only element that made me uncomfortable about the act. I’ve yet to explain to him how I feel in the terms above as they are a rather new revelation to me, but I somehow feel that he’ll find a way to explain my feelings away. If he does so and leaves me feeling invalidated, what do I do? Is there something I can say? Or does this mean I should just move on?
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