I’ve been with my girlfriend for over a year now, and I love everything about her… except this.
Unless she’s just showered, her vagina starts smelling rather unpleasantly, sort of like underarm body odour. She also occasionally develops what I can only surmise is smegma between her labiae. I’ve done research online as to what this could be, but no symptoms of any medical condition I find really describes it. I’ve gone down on my share of vaginas, however, and I’ve never tasted/smelled anything quite like this. It also doesn’t help that she works from home, and as a result doesn’t necessarily shower every day.
The thing is, she is otherwise very hygienic and concerned about her appearance–and she looks great. I was completely taken by her physically the moment I laid my eyes on her. And after getting to know her, I also discovered how wonderful she is.
So after going down on her a few times and noticing this issue, I had the notion that I shouldn’t try to make a big deal about it, since that would be shallow, right? But it’s gotten to the point that it’s affecting how attracted I am to her, and by extension, our sex life.
A different but related problem has to do with her ass wiping habits. Sometimes she doesn’t quite get all of it, and I end up smelling it down there, or getting it on my finger. This is particularly bothersome since I’m a big fan of womens’ assholes, and especially hers (when it’s clean).
So now it’s been over a year, and I’ve never said anything about it. Often when we’re going getting into bed, I’ll move my head close to her crotch to get a whiff, get turned off, and then don’t want to have sex–which I’m sure she notices and gets frustrated by.
I’ve tried asking her to shower with me before bed a few times, and afterwards she smells and tastes great. But usually what I want is to come home, drag her to bed, suck on her beautiful pussy until she comes three or four times, and then fuck her. I did this with a previous girlfriend, who always wore pantyliners, and whose pussy always tasted and smelled fantastic as a result, on a regular basis.
I’ve also made sure that my own hygiene/appearance is up to scruff, in case she was sending me some sort of ‘signal’. For example, I just read a conversation in another thread on reddit about how the worst thing about being blind would be not knowing when to stop wiping. I always wipe until there’s nothing left, and even spit on the toilet paper to make sure. I also make sure my mouth is clean and my breath is fresh by flossing and brushing every day (also something she often neglects). As a result, she often complements me about how great I look and/or smell–which is very nice, but hasn’t resolved the issue on her end.
It’s gotten to the point that I simply have to do something about it. Obviously just telling her exactly what I’m telling all of you would get the message through, but no time ever seems like the right time, since either:
she smells right now and I don’t want to embarrass her, or
we’re about to have sex and I don’t want to ruin the mood, or
we’ve just had sex and I don’t want to ruin the moment.
So r/sex, I know I have to do something. Can you give me any advice on as to what, exactly, and how?
Edit: would it be reasonable to ask her to wear pantyliners all the time? She’s also prone to yeast infections, and I’ve read that since pantyliners absorb moisture, this reduces the chances of an infection.
Edit 2: found this:
Many women (about 85% of those affected) with bacterial vaginosis actually have no symptoms. When symptoms do occur, vaginal discharge and odor are the predominant symptoms.
I didn’t realize it could be intermittent like that. So it might be bacterial vaginosis after all. It looks like I’ll have to have a “talk” with her, and bring this up.
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