This has been puzzling me for a long time and I’d love to know what you guys do about it.
Context: You’re about to have sex with new your partner for the first time. You haven’t known each other for long, it could be even the infamous “sex on the first date”. You don’t care so much about receiving fellatio, but you definitely want to make a good impression and giving some cunnilingus would be a great way to make it.
Problem is you don’t know this person too well, you have absolutely no guarantee that you will not catch something unfortunate from her, and she of course might get something from you (let’s assume you get tested and are clean). Excluding foreplay (yeah yeah, sex is more than oral and penetration, let’s not go there) the only thing you could do is probably get a blowjob with a condom on (most girls hate the taste) or just good old regular penetration.
What do you do in these cases if the girl expects you to go down on her? Do you man it up and play the STD roulette? Is there a nice way to phrase this to her, so that she doesn’t leave cause you’re being too safe? Maybe it’s a one night stand, there’s not going to be a “let’s do it after we get tested”.
I actually believe that most people don’t care, which is probably terrible. I personally experienced this with my last ex where the first time we had sex, she just went straight for a bareback blowjob with no questions asked, and I had to stop her right away to tell her that it was in her own interest to wait until we’re tested. At the time we knew we were going to stick around, so there was no issue with it, but it was certainly a bit of a buzzkil at the moment.
What’s your experience with being a safe bed hero?
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