I continue to be surprised by comments indicating that people are reluctant to do this. To me, sexual compatibility is important, and oral sex is a featured item on the menu at all times. Any man who gets involved with me is going to have my mouth on his cock a lot, and I expect him to reciprocate with enthusiasm.
I have a friend who considers it a startling anomaly when she encounters a man who’s willing to go down. Someone else in a discussion said she receives oral sex once for every 10 times she performs it. And I’ve seen plenty of despairing or bitter comments from husbands who never get blowjobs, and young men whose girlfriends think it’s “gross.”
If I had a new lover and discovered that he didn’t like giving oral sex, he would be out on the sidewalk before he finished putting his pants back on. (That said, I’m 40 and I’m dealing with reasonably experienced lovers in my own age range. When I was 18, I would have let the guy finish getting his pants on before booting him out the door.) I’m sorry, I don’t mean to be insensitive to people who had ultra-strict religious upbringings or past traumatic experiences. I hope those folks find each other and gently shed their inhibitions together.
But otherwise: Why do people put up with this? How do people wind up with such withholding partners?
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