So me and my fiance have been together for nearly 7 years. I’m 27, she’s 31. Throughout our sex life it’s always been pretty vanilla. We’ll have some foreplay where I play with her nipples and rub her clit a bit, or maybe she’ll go down on me. Afterwards, we’ll fuck. Our positions are, again, pretty standard. Missionary, Doggy, Cowgirl/Reverse cowgirl.
I’ve been thinking for a while about ways we could spice up our sex life. She’s never been a particularly adventurous girl, and I suppose if I’m honest, I’ve never been a particularly adventurous guy. But for a while now, I’ve been feeling like there’s something seriously lacking in our relationship. (edit: I meant to say there’s something lacking in our sexual relationship. Our non-sexual relationship has been great)
I spoke to her about the mojoupgrade website and she kind of laughed it off. I know she looked at it, because she mentioned some of the funnier questions (e.g. Brown showers) in conversation, but she never agreed to do the test.
Anyway – to get to the point…she sat me down out of the blue yesterday and said she’d decided she did want to try new things and her fantasy was to get fucked by a group of black men while I watched.
I was pretty shocked by this, as she’d never given any indication she was interested in anything other than a monogamous relationship. My emotions were all over the place, as suddenly she was not just talking about about improving our sex life, but bringing someone else in. Actually, bringing multiple people in. I told her I was a bit taken aback and I’d need to think about it. We haven’t said a word about it since the conversation, but it’s clear she’s waiting for an answer.
I don’t even know where to begin on how I feel about this… On one hand, I’m thinking that I’m not enough for her, or too boring, and the only way she’d be happy to stay with me is if she can fuck other people. Also, the fact that she specified “black” guys implies she’s looking for big dicks, which is making me a bit self-conscious about my ability to satisfy her. Also, I don’t understand the part about wanting me to be there to see her fucked. Is it about humiliating me, or is it about her feeling safe?
On the other hand, I would be lying if I said the whole idea of seeing her being ravaged by a group of guys didn’t turn me on a bit. The racial aspect also seems to add a bit of spice to the whole thing.
So Reddit – advice is needed! My fiance was good enough to talk to me about this shit before doing anything…but now I don’t know what to do with the information and I don’t know which side of my brain to listen to. The part that feels humiliated and degraded, or the part that feels a bit turned on.
Advice and guidance will be most gratefully received…
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