So me and my fiance have been together for nearly 7 years. I’m 27, she’s 31. Throughout our sex life it’s always been pretty vanilla. We’ll have some foreplay where I play with her nipples and rub her clit a bit, or maybe she’ll go down on me. Afterwards, we’ll fuck. Our positions are, again, pretty standard. Missionary, Doggy, Cowgirl/Reverse cowgirl.

I’ve been thinking for a while about ways we could spice up our sex life. She’s never been a particularly adventurous girl, and I suppose if I’m honest, I’ve never been a particularly adventurous guy. But for a while now, I’ve been feeling like there’s something seriously lacking in our relationship. (edit: I meant to say there’s something lacking in our sexual relationship. Our non-sexual relationship has been great)

I spoke to her about the mojoupgrade website and she kind of laughed it off. I know she looked at it, because she mentioned some of the funnier questions (e.g. Brown showers) in conversation, but she never agreed to do the test.

Anyway – to get to the point…she sat me down out of the blue yesterday and said she’d decided she did want to try new things and her fantasy was to get fucked by a group of black men while I watched.

I was pretty shocked by this, as she’d never given any indication she was interested in anything other than a monogamous relationship. My emotions were all over the place, as suddenly she was not just talking about about improving our sex life, but bringing someone else in. Actually, bringing multiple people in. I told her I was a bit taken aback and I’d need to think about it. We haven’t said a word about it since the conversation, but it’s clear she’s waiting for an answer.

I don’t even know where to begin on how I feel about this… On one hand, I’m thinking that I’m not enough for her, or too boring, and the only way she’d be happy to stay with me is if she can fuck other people. Also, the fact that she specified “black” guys implies she’s looking for big dicks, which is making me a bit self-conscious about my ability to satisfy her. Also, I don’t understand the part about wanting me to be there to see her fucked. Is it about humiliating me, or is it about her feeling safe?

On the other hand, I would be lying if I said the whole idea of seeing her being ravaged by a group of guys didn’t turn me on a bit. The racial aspect also seems to add a bit of spice to the whole thing.

So Reddit – advice is needed! My fiance was good enough to talk to me about this shit before doing anything…but now I don’t know what to do with the information and I don’t know which side of my brain to listen to. The part that feels humiliated and degraded, or the part that feels a bit turned on.

Advice and guidance will be most gratefully received…

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men tend to love watching lesbian porn, is it the same for women? I’ve never really heard of it, but I don’t see why it would only appeal to men.

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17, no throw away because I don’t care, I have some issues that i need to talk about,

all things considered everything went great. Condoms fucking suck. thought I never got to climax (She was amazing this was my fault) she came 4-5 times

so yeah lets start with number 1, I went down on her first because I’m a gentlemen and we got to doing all that fun stuff (Just hands and fingers) and she came twice, so on to #2 as soon as I got it on my dick went flacid and just gave out on me. I’ve never been so dissapointed in my life. so to prevent a bad situation from becoming worse I kept going down on her until she came 3-4 more times I don’t really remember I wasn’t counting. but c’mon… I’m a fucking 17 year old boy what is this horse shit? i wasn’t even that nervous at all and I’ts bothering me, what if every time is like this? I need some help here. or some fucking viagra. goddamn. I was hoping my first time would involve more than 5-6 seconds of penetration before I went flacid -_-

signed; an EXTREMELY frustrated teenaged boy

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(female here, btw) I usually let him take the reigns, but i would like to try something new. i dont feel like i am being submissive because I am comfortable with those positions. i just dont know how to express to him (verbally or through body language) that i want to try something different. plus im just not sure which ones to try/which ones hes comfortable with

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Female here.

I guess I am just looking for some assurance or any advice.

I can’t sleep and haven’t masturbated since(which is really unusual for me, as I have a high sex drive).

I am afraid when I start feeling normal again my sexuality will have altered but I am really hoping that’s not the case, not only because I enjoy sex but also because I don’t want what happened to hold more power and affect me more so than it already has.

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unfortunately I have to say this is not a troll because it sounds like. I really wish it was .. I spent that last day wishing that . but it is not.

previous post here

now the sad part. she just confirmed that she has aids. she insisted on protection since beginning. she had this fear . she just confirmed it today. and told me the story about it ( she always referred to it but never told it)

I am lost like shit. crying my eyes out and shit. tried to hide from it. it doesn’t help. she has aids and that can’t be changed by running away.

She refuse to tell anyone at the moment (not before finishing her exams – after about a month) her father -what a fucking irony- is heavily involved in the anti-aids , aids- protection activities . but she refused to inform any one before the end of her exams.

I am lost and don’t even know what am I expecting of posting here. but I don’t know I was hoping for any light for me, her , or about defeating this mother fucker

we don’t live in US nor Europe, we are somewhere in Middle east. however she can travel to Europe easily if solution is recommended there .

I am lost between :

I don’t know shit about aids I am afraid of losing her and can’t think of anything else ( she is strong though, not sure if that is based on knowledge or what .. as I said she is a medicine student from a medical house and heavily involved in anti-aids community and activities). can she be cured ? I know this is stupid Is there a possibility that she is just carrying the disease but not affecting her ? ( I remember some shit like that about aids) and about me . what should I do for her ? she wants me to stay strong not like the pile of crap I am currently because she doesn’t want to be weak . How can I be ? and how can I stay safe and aids free ? (so far I am ok for sure, lets say I checked and I am fine). how can I maintain that ?

any advise from you people out there ? I am really shattered here .and I truly love her and scared like a tiny cat.

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I’ve been with my girlfriend for over a year now, and I love everything about her… except this.

Unless she’s just showered, her vagina starts smelling rather unpleasantly, sort of like underarm body odour. She also occasionally develops what I can only surmise is smegma between her labiae. I’ve done research online as to what this could be, but no symptoms of any medical condition I find really describes it. I’ve gone down on my share of vaginas, however, and I’ve never tasted/smelled anything quite like this. It also doesn’t help that she works from home, and as a result doesn’t necessarily shower every day.

The thing is, she is otherwise very hygienic and concerned about her appearance–and she looks great. I was completely taken by her physically the moment I laid my eyes on her. And after getting to know her, I also discovered how wonderful she is.

So after going down on her a few times and noticing this issue, I had the notion that I shouldn’t try to make a big deal about it, since that would be shallow, right? But it’s gotten to the point that it’s affecting how attracted I am to her, and by extension, our sex life.

A different but related problem has to do with her ass wiping habits. Sometimes she doesn’t quite get all of it, and I end up smelling it down there, or getting it on my finger. This is particularly bothersome since I’m a big fan of womens’ assholes, and especially hers (when it’s clean).

So now it’s been over a year, and I’ve never said anything about it. Often when we’re going getting into bed, I’ll move my head close to her crotch to get a whiff, get turned off, and then don’t want to have sex–which I’m sure she notices and gets frustrated by.

I’ve tried asking her to shower with me before bed a few times, and afterwards she smells and tastes great. But usually what I want is to come home, drag her to bed, suck on her beautiful pussy until she comes three or four times, and then fuck her. I did this with a previous girlfriend, who always wore pantyliners, and whose pussy always tasted and smelled fantastic as a result, on a regular basis.

I’ve also made sure that my own hygiene/appearance is up to scruff, in case she was sending me some sort of ‘signal’. For example, I just read a conversation in another thread on reddit about how the worst thing about being blind would be not knowing when to stop wiping. I always wipe until there’s nothing left, and even spit on the toilet paper to make sure. I also make sure my mouth is clean and my breath is fresh by flossing and brushing every day (also something she often neglects). As a result, she often complements me about how great I look and/or smell–which is very nice, but hasn’t resolved the issue on her end.

It’s gotten to the point that I simply have to do something about it. Obviously just telling her exactly what I’m telling all of you would get the message through, but no time ever seems like the right time, since either:

she smells right now and I don’t want to embarrass her, or

we’re about to have sex and I don’t want to ruin the mood, or

we’ve just had sex and I don’t want to ruin the moment.

So r/sex, I know I have to do something. Can you give me any advice on as to what, exactly, and how?

Edit: would it be reasonable to ask her to wear pantyliners all the time? She’s also prone to yeast infections, and I’ve read that since pantyliners absorb moisture, this reduces the chances of an infection.

Edit 2: found this:

Many women (about 85% of those affected) with bacterial vaginosis actually have no symptoms. When symptoms do occur, vaginal discharge and odor are the predominant symptoms.

I didn’t realize it could be intermittent like that. So it might be bacterial vaginosis after all. It looks like I’ll have to have a “talk” with her, and bring this up.

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Hi guys! This is my first time posting onto sexxit (and reddit in general…), so please bear with me!

Basically, I haven’t had sex for a few months, and would like to try having casual relationship with someone for the first time. (Totally novice at this whole thing…)

The thing is, I am attracted to some of my guy friends, but I’d really rather not have things like “yeah, I banged her” go around our circle of friends/workplace.

I know, I know about the whole “who cares?” deal, but I honestly would just like to avoid the drama and stress that would come along with it. I really don’t want people I know talking to me more often because I happened to be intimate with someone else.

Also, I don’t think I am that comfortable yet to hook-up with someone from a party, or bar, so…

Any advice from people who’ve been in the situation, or in general? Thank you kindly.

Perhaps this is TMI, but it is starting to really bother me, and probably him as well. It is irritating since in my last relationship (My ex-fiance and I broke up about 6 months ago) he sometimes said I was, “too wet.” Now I’m lucky if I get even a trickle. Mind you I am young and DTF. This current guy it has been a regular regiment of drink-fuck-sleep-fuck-sleep-wake-fuck-eat-leave. He is very willing to attempt it but at some point I just… well can’t get wet or even cum.

I am pretty sure that on many levels the issue is me still getting over my ex and not ever having been in such a casual going nowhere relationship I don’t really know how to react to him. But also I know he is a little too fast and doesn’t take care for the little things. Don’t really know how to approach that with this guy that.. well… I don’t know that well.

Seriously help. Any advice?

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Last night I was hanging out with this girl I’ve been seeing for a while..we were just in my room watching movies, talking, and whatnot. We start making out and things start to get heated. Clothes eventually start to come off and soon we’re naked. (I know shes not going to have sex so I dont really know why we got naked but whatever..) Shes absolutely gorgeous, stunning, and I am very attracted to her.. we’re making out on my bed and for some goddamn reason, I am not hard/cant get hard. This has never ever happened to me before so it was pretty maddening. I really have no idea wtf happened. This is embarrassing but today, I tried watching porn and still nothing happened down there; it seemed like I was not interested in it or something. I’m a 20 year old male, healthy, fit, etc etc and I havent had sex for about 6 months since my last relationship..and I dont even watch porn that much.

Has anyone else experienced this? What the hell is going on???

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