I am 22m and a virgin, I recently started dating a 20yo. One day she gave me a hand job (first one) and I came really fast, just a few strokes. The next day she was giving me a hand job and I was getting really close (really soon again) so I told her to slow down. I settled down fairly fast and gave her the go ahead to continue, and she did, as well as giving me head (first time) however I couldn’t get close to orgasm. She alternated head and hand and nothing worked. I was still hard but just couldn’t finish. I am kind of nervous, all this stuff being new and all, so I know from searching other topics that that might be a psychological hurdle, but I really like her and want to try to do anything I can to help and learn to control myself. Any suggestions on why that happened or how to control myself would be awesome.

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In a Luke Skywalker-esque moment of brilliance, this woman backs her round ass onto her boyfriend’s dick without turning her head or using her hand as a guide. Truly the force is strong with this one… More

The term “CFNM” stands for “clothed female, naked male” and plays with the fantasy dynamic of power play where the male thinks he is in his usual state of power and privilege in the heterosexual exchange, but quickly finds out he is a mere plaything for women who gleefully take the sexual upper hand. The [...]

Obviously this may not be as good feeling or effective for every guy, but I had a blast with this the other day when I was playing with myself and figured I’d share.

Instead of typical constant up & down stroking of the shaft & head, I used lube and wrapped my hand loosely around my cock as I normally would. Starting at the base I went straight up, pulling my hand over my head and off my cock, then immediately using my other hand to grab the base and stroke up again, and repeating this over & over. I found this to be far more intensely pleasurable than normal up & down jacking off, and had a hard time dealing with the intense wave of tingles it caused. It was very intense.

Also I would switch it up and do 2 upstrokes, then 1 down stroke, repeat. The calmness of the down stroke in between the up strokes almost made it even more intense.

SO: LUBE + LOOSE GRIP + UP STROKES = UUUNNNNNHHHHHH!

Anyone else done this? Anyone try it after reading this and feel the same.?

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Figuratively.

Literally, she blew my cock away. It was the simplest thing. It was a dull Saturday afternoon and I had just woken up from an afternoon nap to my fiance sucking me off. The funny thing this time though was that she ended up going insanely slow but steady throughout. All these exaggerated hand motions and tongue flicks. She never increased the pace but I could noticeably feel my pulse and breathing slowly and steadily rising. It felt insanely awesome and I told her to continue. She keeps at this for literally 15 minutes or so and I just can’t stand this constant stimulation. It was amazing that she could get me to cum without any fast repetitive hand motions, like you normally figure and just working slowly with her lips and tongue. I was absolutely amazed and mind-blown at this.

What a frickin’ angel.

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Dirtytalk feels weird and embarrasing when starting out. But keep in mind that everything is taken in a totally different context when you are in the mood and horny.

I’ve tried variations, but these are the simple steps that I found to be effective: (I usually whisper them in her ear, and the stories have the most effect when it’s impossible to have sex right there and then)

Summary

define the scenario describe enough details to ensure a visual picture in her head describe the sensory input start soft and then repeat step 2 and 3 while using stronger and stronger language

More detail: 1. The scenario This can be more or less anything but don’t use a scenario that is hard to relate to. I usually use the current situation or somewhere I know so I am comfortable about the details. It’s a bonus if you can integrate a fantasy of hers, or some of the more common female fantasies… like exploring taboos, risk of getting caught, uniforms, being submissive, etc. Examples are: the library, the bus, the living room and so on…

2. enough details You won’t trigger a picture in her head unless it has enough details to fill in the blanks. “We have sex on the bus” is an example of infinitely lack of detail. A better version would be: “You and I are sitting in the back of the bus in the afternoon. There’s only a few people on it, and all of them are sitting in front of us. The seats are soft and the bus is so tall that pedestrians walking past can’t see that my hand is sliding under your red skirt.

3. The sensory input This is very important in dirty talk… what does everything feel like. As you are describing a fantasy and not actually doing it, you need to replace everything that is missing… what does it look like, sound like, taste like, smell like and feel like… And bonus points for learning sensual language… Example: …my hand is hovering over the edge of your skirt at first, before I let one finger wander along the edge and push it carefully over your kneecap. I cup my hand over your kneecap and you can feel the heat from my hand. You look at my face and see a glint in my eyes and that naughty smile I get when I want something. You feel so desired.

4. Escalate Your story needs to start rather innocent and then escalate into the dirtiest you dare say. The hornier the two of you get the raunchier the language. But don’t jump to quickly… Your story can’t go from kissing to fucking in an instant unless you know what you are doing. Describing the following in this order has been pretty failsafe for me: touching hands and feet, touching neck, touching stomach and thighs, touching breasts, touching close to genetalia, touching genetalia, you fingering her, her blowing you, you inserting dick, you fucking her… (insert kissing randomly)

TL;DR: basically what you are doing is verbally playing back a porn film in her head starring yourself.

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I just wanted to come here and say, you are all perfectly fine! Cuming in less than a minute does not make you sexually retarded nor does it make you inadequate. As a gf in a very healthy and amazing sexual relationship with someone who only lasts around a minute, I can tell you that you’re overreacting. Not EVERY woman wants you to go for fifteen minutes! That would be incredibly painful IMO for 2-4x a week!

Here are some ideas that can help you in the bedroom:

A dildo/vibrator. A toy can help your lady build up and cum multiple times before you even penetrate her. Explore with the toys together and find her G-spot and/or how to get her off the best way with clit stimulation. Go with what makes her comfortable. And when she’s exhausted, slip yourself in and finish. Ahhhh, wasn’t that nice. Perfect your oral sex and your handjobs. Once you start a makeout session/sexy time, make her orgasm better with soft strong licks, lubing up your fingers with her juices then going at it (gently), and maybe even teasing her by stopping for a few seconds when she starts getting close to orgasm. (Just no more than 3 times, otherwise it’s annoying.) Communicate. Yea yea you’ve heard it before, but honestly it’s the only way for both of you to feel satisfied. Tell her before hand you cum a little quick so you want to focus 100% on her first. If she’s jacking you off while you’re going down on her and you’re getting close, move her hand away and grasp it. Or move her hand to your hair to grab on to. If you’re going to town during sex and she’s looking a bit bored, reposition her so she can enjoy it. Doesn’t have to be complicated. Just say, “How’s this?” “Let’s switch.” “A little to the left.” Moan of breathe faster when it’s right. Cuddle afterwards and/or joke. Sex shouldn’t ever ever be stressful. It’s a wonderful thing to share and relieves the stress from the day. Sometimes the afterparty is better than the party itself.

I really want you guys to know you’re not inadequate. Care about your partner and his/her needs and everything else will work out just fine. Quit stressing

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In fact, we think they go hand in hand! Hand in mouth? Regardless, nothing makes a good segue from oral to cowgirl like a little, sassy hip cock. More

It’s not weird, or “out there,” but I wanted to share with sexxit!

I was hanging out with my SO last night, cuddled up on his bed watching Pulp Fiction. I have this bad habit of not really watching movies when I’m with him. I innocently slipped my fingers under the waistband of his boxers and just began to trace his skin lightly.

He moaned a little (HOT) and shifted himself toward me, so I slid my entire hand into his boxers. He pressed his cock against my hand, and I could feel him getting hard.

I straddled him and began to kiss his neck and collarbone, down his chest, and then pressing my mouth against his dick, through his boxers. He was breathing hard at this point, so I pulled off his boxers and slipped his head into my mouth. He gave a little gasp, and I could feel myself getting wet. There’s nothing hotter to me than when a guy makes those unconscious noises. Except…

Soon he was on top of me, pounding me against the wall. I was gripping the sheets with one hand and the headboard with the other, but soon moved my hands to grab his shoulders, and… sweat. He was slick with the effort of giving me a good railing. I swear I came right there.

I don’t think I’ve ever been so turned on. Get wet, messy, and sweaty in bed! Shit, it’s half the fun.

TLDR: sweaty sex is hot. literally.

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Ok. So I have recently had sex with one of my fellow co workers. We’ve been buds at work for a while and while having some drinks one night, we ended up doing the deed. The next day, we both decided that things won’t get weird and that what we did wasn’t a bad idea.. So, she texts me to hang out at her place the following evening. I swing by and we watch some Netflix. The whole time she seems distant and pissed off. I find myself really wanting to leave, but I didn’t want to add more fuel to how weird and uncomfortable it already was. Here’s the deal. She asked ME to come over. She was trying to hold my hand and cuddle. I fell for all of that and contributed my hand and cuddles.. Yet somewhere in-between Louis CK and Arrested Development, her tone changed from sweet to strange. I stayed the night.. Nothing happened ofcourse, but I was quite weirded out with it all. I don’t understand. (not sure if this is the right subreddit for this, but I took a shot anyway)

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