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[Advice] The sex is so hot but I feel like I’ve lost a huge part of myself

A quick backstory: my girlfriend is detransitioning. Basically, that means you transition to another gender and then you transition back to your original gender. For example, my girlfriend was transitioning to male but now she decided to detransition back to female. I have always known her as a guy so this is new to me. And I identified as gay as well, now I'm questioning.

When we had sex before, there was less emphasis on the female parts of her body. She wore a binder and we had more anal sex than PIV sex. We still had PIV but we do it doggy style most of the time.

For the past three nights, we have had some of the hottest sex ever. I realized I really love her body and I love paying attention to the more female aspects of it like her breasts and the different parts of her vagina. Now, her orgasms are more powerful and she has multiple orgasms, and she can squirt. I'm not even joking when I tell you that it's fucking hot.

I was really hesitant to admit this, but I'm really turned on by the more feminine aspects of her personality and body now. I thought I wouldn't be and it would take a toll on our relationship, so I'm so relieved.

It's just that…I feel like I've lost a huge part of me. I thought I was gay and I just wanted to fuck guys, it was a big deal for me. It took me a long time to come to that realization, and when I did it made perfect sense. Now, I don't really know what I am and who I'm attracted to, and it's kind of sad.

It shouldn't be sad because I have a rad girlfriend but I feel really incomplete now.

Does anyone have any helpful input or advice for me?

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Where can I find erotica written in the female, second person perspective? And possibly audio-only smut?

Preferably plotless- oneshots, no names, etc. I could care less if its F on M or F on F.

I’ve figured out that I really enjoy reading smut, moreso than images or video, but I need stuff that’ll help with my fantasizing, second person and all. I’m also looking for just… y’know, sounds. Moans and stuff. I’ve gone over to gonewildaudio but it’s often too grainy for me since I’m a ridiculous audiophile. Is there any high quality stuff out there?

Sorry if this is all a bit vague.

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I would just like to take the time to thank Sexxit, I have been browsing you for about 3 months now and it has made me a better lover.

I(24/m) had amazing sex last night and it hit me; I was actively referencing and planning out what I was doing from stuff I read here. I gave her multiple, rolling orgasms.

The top three three things I have learned from sexxit;

*Slow it the fuck down. I used to get all excited and go balls deep.

*Talking/communication is another form of foreplay, especially when whispered in the ear.

*I’ve read multiple posts/articles on oral and changed up my game.

I’ve also grown more accustomed to condom use through advice threads, which is wildly important.

I would just like to say thank you, keep up the good work, and I’m going to be contributing back to the community as much as I can.

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Good in bed?

[20]f w/ [25]m sex is awesome…but I feel likehe lied to me about how I am in bed.

We basically have sex at least once a day if not more on workdays and even more on the weekends. Sex is amazing. It’s the best sex I’ve ever had honestly. I told him as much multiple times and he usually just goes yeah. But yesterday and today I definitely said it again, cause he worries that someone else could be better, not likely. And I flat out said, “babe, the best sex I’ve ever had has been with you.” he stuttered a reply and then said he agreed, but it sounded like he was remembering someone he had better sex with. Im not sure why this bothers me, as we’ve talked about getting married and he’s said I’m the last person he wants to sleep with ever, but I feel like now I could be better in bed and I don’t know how to be. I’ve told him to be more vocal about what he likes and what feels good but he just says it all does.

Tldr: am I thinking too much about this/what can I do to be better if I’m not the best?

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18 year-old girl deeply frustrated/upset. No desire for sex/cannot get "horny." Details in inside. Desperate for help.

I’m an 18-year old girl. I’m at a healthy weight, and I am in good health from what I can tell/have been told by my family doctor. However, one thing that is severely lacking is my “sexual health.” As in, I cannot get horny. And getting wet due to sexual arousal is hard. Yes, I can actually get “wet” down there, but it’s not due to sexual arousal. It literally happens every so often where I’d be “wet” down there for NO reason at all. I desire no foreplay either. I think kissing is boring, and I see no point in making out.

I have a boyfriend, and he’s amazing. I am attracted to him/charmed by him and I think he’s so sweet. But the thing is, I just cannot make out with him. I feel nothing. I get bored. I try to do it just to please him, but that’s it. There is nothing beneficial for me. And I’ve been like this for a very long time now.

When my boyfriend and I fool around, he’ll play with my breasts, suck on my nipples…I don’t really feel it. I don’t necessarily dislike it, but I don’t see the arousal or fun in it. It often just ends up with me sucking him off and me telling him I’m tired. But he’s been getting suspicious lately and has convinced himself I’m not attracted to him. I just tell him I’m really tired/stressed.

When he tries to finger me…ow. It hurts. I’ve never fingered myself before because I’ve felt no desire. The thing is, I really WANT to feel this desire. This lust, this insatiable desire..the passion. I’m an attractive, young girl that’s physically fit and pleasant to look at. I’m very nice to people, and I think I’m an overall good catch so I feel like me not having any sexual desire is just selling myself short. My boyfriend gets crazy around me, and I just WISH I could feel the same way about it or anyone.

I’ve tried to watch porn. I try to start rubbing myself (because fingering would hurt way too much). As much as I rub, I don’t really get wet at all…then I start getting just a tad bit into it for like literally 20 seconds and for 20 seconds, I can feel something…just a little bit. But after those 20 seconds, I reach a “climax” which is bs because we all know it is not a climax. It’s a very, very, VERY small release of pleasure but it really doesn’t do much for one. I’ve tried so many things, but nothing. 🙁

Please, help, Reddit. I’ve ignored this problem for long enough, and I’m just sick and tired of it. I want this passion and lust. What can I do to help this? For the sake of me and my poor boyfriend.

P.S.: I want to have kids! How the hell am I going to be able to procreate if a finger in my vagina is hell?

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How do people find others willing to have a threesome?

I’ve wanted to have a threesome for a long time but I’ve never really ever figured out how to ask anyone or go about finding others that would be interested. It’s something I’d really like to try since I’m pretty open to sexual experimentation and it seems like it would be a lot of fun. I’m a guy and not in any kind of serious relationship right now so I feel like this might be a perfect time to try and find some people to do this with. Does anyone who has had one have any suggestions for how I might be able to go about finding interested individuals? Is there a subreddit even that I don’t know about or other sites that are fairly safe I could check out?

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Questions about vasectomy.

Throwaway here. I’m a 25 year old male who is fairly sexually active. I’ve been mulling around the idea of getting a vasectomy for the past few months. I’ve found some really good advice about other things on sexxit and figured I’d ask here before further consideration. I DO want kids, but just not now, and I know it would be a relief to any future partners who are concerned about getting pregnant to hear that I had the snip.


I’ve heard it’s reversible, but would it still be a good idea to store sperm for later in life?

How easy is it to reverse?

What can I expect in regards to sexual performance after the operation?

What about sex drive and attitude? Does sex drive drop?

I’d love to hear any input/advice from any other guys out there who have had a vasectomy.

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Girls, how do you know if youve had an orgasm?

I’ve been having sex for four years, and I’ve had multiple partners. I’m pretty sure I’ve had an orgasm before, but I don’t know what separates it from something just feeling incredibly good. I was with a new partner, and he was fingering me, and I was incredibly wet, and it was feeling amazing, but I don’t know if there was any particular defining thing. I was talking to him the next day, and he said he didn’t get me off. I didn’t know what to say, because I don’t know if he really did?

TL;DR How in the hell do I know if I orgasm?

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My boyfriend is not circumcised and it turns me off.

I know circumcision is a heated topic. But everyone has personal preferences when it comes to sex and I prefer circumcised guys. That being said, my boyfriend, who I’ve been with for a few years and love very much, is not circumcised. I hate that it matters to me but it does. I don’t like going down on him because of it. It’s something about the extra skin. I feel like a terrible person because of it. I’ve never told him how I feel. Any advice?

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Men – Do you like your nipples to be touched?

The first time I ever tried to lick/kiss my ex’s (he was my first everything), he was not interested and directed me away. I have come to realize that he was weird about a lot of things when it came to sex, but I still have yet to try doing this again with any other guys I’ve hooked up with.

So I’m wondering men: Do you like to have your nipples touched, played with, kissed, etc? If so, please elaborate, whether with a story or particular technique. I’ve got my pad and pencil ready!

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Did you ever agree to sex with a person you were not into, and end up having a good time after all?

People often talk about how they had sex with people they didn’t really want to have sex with, and ended up regretting it afterwards. I’ve had my share of experiences like that. But I’ve also had a whole bunch of times where I ended up fooling around with people I wasn’t into, and enjoying myself with them after all. Either the touching/sucking/eating/humping/fucking turned out to feel good anyway, or I enjoyed seeing that I turned them on and that I could give them pleasure.

I was wondering if I was the only one with a somewhat solid collection of those experiences.

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whats your deepest darkest fetish?

I’ve heard a lot of women have a rape fetish. I don’t, however when I was a child I was reading a novel called “Flowers in the attic” that is built around incest… I’ve noticed over the years that I have developed an incest fetish. What are some fetishes that you have that even you think is too weird?

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