Read a posted article about a Mormon woman who was resigned to never getting married and thus never having love, and never getting boned.

But then I thought what she would be like in the sack if she did find a guy that she married…

I’m sure one of you magnificent sex-positive bastards out there went from 0 to tie-me-up-and-cum-on-my-face crazy.

submitted by CaptainAw3some [link] [12 comments]

Well, if you haven’t…. I’m about to do it.

But, I don’t want this to be about me. I’m a girl. Been married 3-4 years. I’ve tried everything. Lingerie, talking to him about his sexual fantasies, doing/being/wearing what he likes….. etc. etc. etc. Hubby isn’t depressed. I haven’t gained weight. I suspected a low sex drive from him before, but we had a long distance relationship (for a couple years – overseas) before we married. When we seldom saw each other, we had lots of sex.

But, I would be lying if I said I didn’t suspect a low sex drive before we married. I suspected he would be less than my other partners – but nothing as low as this. Now, that we are married and living together for 2ish years, it’s worse than I imagined.

We have sex every 2 months or so. We were late 20s when we married. I’ve been in other relationships and I used to have sex daily or at least every other day.

It’s not only that there is no sex, but also no closeness…. no sitting on the couch together, no holding hands, no intimacy in any way (physical or emotional) …. nothing.

I’m not going to live my life this way. I refuse. Also, I’ve been telling him all this in no uncertain terms for over a year. He knows, but I guess he is unwilling/unable to comply.

I don’t really want advice for myself. I feel like I understand my situation. I know what I’m going to do.

I’m just wondering if anyone else has divorced/broken up for lack of sexual chemistry?

submitted by getlow101 [link] [21 comments]

I wanted to weigh in from the other side of the issue.

I’m married to an absolutely spectacular woman, and I couldn’t be happier about my decision. We’ve been married two years. We were engaged and living together for a year before that, and were dating for 4 years before that.

The sex is PHENOMENAL. It gets better every year. She’s the only woman I’ve ever been with who can make me come so hard I shake. There was no sudden, alarming change when we got married. There hasn’t been any kind of tapering off. Neither of us have let ourselves go. Our relationship “contract” includes the idea that we both have very real, physical sexual needs, and committing to each other for life involves taking responsibility for our partner’s sexual satisfaction. During the times that one of us hasn’t been up for it for whatever reason (health, job stress, whatever) we always make the stretch to accommodate each other. It really isn’t that hard to get someone off once or twice, especially when it’s someone you love, even if you aren’t in the mood. I can say, “Hey, could a get a beej right quick?” at pretty much any time and be met with an enthusiastic and immediate response.

I saw the thread on the front page about the unfortunate guy with the sexless marriage. Someone in the comments said that marriage seemed to have more cons than pros, and that had a lot of upvotes. It doesn’t if you do it right. Don’t settle. Don’t get married because you feel pressured or because you feel like it’s just the next thing to do. Don’t marry someone who doesn’t share your attitudes about sexuality. Don’t expect marriage to fix any existing problems you have. Marry someone who you love because you think they’ll be a good companion for the rest of your life. Talk beforehand about what you expect your marriage to look like, and realize that it’ll probably look about the same as your relationship does right now.

If you marry a woman who only gives blowjobs reluctantly, you will end up with a wife who only gives blowjobs reluctantly, or not at all. Marry a woman who loves sex and you’ll get a wife who loves sex.

Also, a quick shout out for the promiscuous ladies: women who genuinely love sex will usually (not always!) have slept with quite a few people. Don’t let it bother you. IT IS WORTH IT. Go out and find you an honest, trustworthy slut and you’ll be all set.

EDIT: Thanks for the upvotes, guys! The wifey is flattered. I am totally going to leverage this into anal. Yeeeaaaaaah.

LOOK OUT, IT’S ANOTHER EDIT: “You’ve only been married two years, just wait a few more, then you’ll be as sad and miserable as the rest of us.” Maybe, maybe not. I’ll never regret the decision I’ve made, regardless, and I say this from experience, having seen some of my most serious relationships fall apart in the worst ways possible in the past. It was the right choice at the time and I’ve been happy at least this long, and that’s something I’ll always have. The point is, things did not turn to shit as soon as I put a ring on her finger.

When I was 16, out-of-shape 20-year-olds told me that things would change when I hit college. When I turned 20, out-of-shape 30-year-olds told me everything would change when I hit 25. Later, it was 30. Now I’m almost 30 and I’m being told everything will change when I hit 40. Haters gonna hate. I like my marriage and you bastards can’t take that away from me. Myeh.

submitted by FuckYouGuys [link] [361 comments]