You know when you do something dirty and you want nothing more than to tell people because you’re all proud of yourself and stuff but you don’t want people to judge you? So I gave my boyfriend his/my first blowjob today! He loved it, I even swallowed. I’m such a good girlfriend.

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Every Friday on Pulp Tech I do a sex and tech news roundup – I think that the intersections of sex and tech are where we find the interesting bits. Often, these bits reveal intentions by people that want to use sexuality for something other than positive reasons, and where people try to control others [...]

I’m currently enrolled in a sociology class, and in my discussion section I discovered that I am the ONLY woman who has talked to her partners about pregnancy. I’m also the oldest student in the class (it’s mostly freshman), and statistically speaking, I’ve probably been sexually active much longer (I… started early, although I didn’t have intercourse for a while).

At any rate, we had radically different ideas of what it means to be safe about sex. I don’t think it is enough to use contraception. I mean, it’s a good move, and you should do it, but the reality is that no contraception method is 100% effective. Combining methods makes you much safer, but there is always a chance of pregnancy, and I think that chance should be addressed. I don’t think I’m going to die in a car crash, but I’m still signed up as an organ donor. I don’t think I’m going to get pregnant (on the pill, using condoms/withdrawal) but I talk to my partners about pregnancy anyway.

It is always better to make a plan when you are not emotionally invested and it is not an emergency situation. It is better to talk about how you feel about pregnancy when you are not pregnant. I personally know that I would have an abortion, and it’s important for me to make sure my partners are on the same page. I am not willing to continue a pregnancy even if the father is pro-life, so I think that it is important for me to give the men in my life the opportunity to assess this information. If they are opposed to abortion then they should not sleep with me.

Safer sex is about risk reduction. You find methods that reduce the risks to a level that you are comfortable with, and then you make plans to deal with worst case situations. To go back to the old analogy, it’s like driving a car. Safe driving means that I use my seat-belt, look around for other drivers, follow driving law… and have insurance, and am a registered organ donor. I take steps to protect myself and I plan for the worst. I think that my attitude is influenced by the fact that I do know several people – both my peers and their mothers – who have had unintentional pregnancies. These are people I respect, people who I know were using contraception. People like me. I’ve really come to realize that even if a method is 99% effective that means that 1 person in 100 will become pregnant each year. It’s a risk I’m willing to take, but by god I am also going to plan for it.

So please, talk to your partner(s). It will only take a few minutes of your time, and it is the responsible thing to do. You need to be able to talk about sex.

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No judgment here, I think it’s awesome that people are able to get sexual enjoyment from unusual things (assuming all people involved are consenting, safe, etc).

I think my favorite odd fetish is sneezing. Also love that balloon fetishists are called looners and that there’s a continual debate about whether or not the balloons should be popped.

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Hi guys! This is my first time posting onto sexxit (and reddit in general…), so please bear with me!

Basically, I haven’t had sex for a few months, and would like to try having casual relationship with someone for the first time. (Totally novice at this whole thing…)

The thing is, I am attracted to some of my guy friends, but I’d really rather not have things like “yeah, I banged her” go around our circle of friends/workplace.

I know, I know about the whole “who cares?” deal, but I honestly would just like to avoid the drama and stress that would come along with it. I really don’t want people I know talking to me more often because I happened to be intimate with someone else.

Also, I don’t think I am that comfortable yet to hook-up with someone from a party, or bar, so…

Any advice from people who’ve been in the situation, or in general? Thank you kindly.

I see a lot of “I caught my bf/gf masturbating, how could they? Am I not doing enough?” type post so I’m just wondering…why do people tend to freak out about this? I know for a fact that my SO masturbates, and he knows that I do, but we don’t make a big deal about it. We’ve actually almost turned it into a game of sorts, teasing the other whenever we do.

So, why is there a tendency for people to freak out and assume that they aren’t doing enough to please their partner?

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Sorry to sound like a 15-year old boy, but I love eating out my woman, constantly and at all times. And finally, she admitted that she’s slowly getting into giving me blowjobs as well. Naturally, I proffered her my cock whenever she felt like it and voila, today, out of the blue, she walks in on me reading a novel and asks me if I’ve got sometime to spare. When I said yes, she proceeds to suck me off nice and good. After cleaning up she resumed her work and left me grinning like an idiot. And that smile she gave me as she walked away, into the living room is one of the sexiest things I’ve seen in her in a long time.

Though this might not seem like much to many people, as someone raised in a christian household and taught to be ashamed of her own orgasms, this is a huge deal and it feels awesome.

Of course, I’m giddy at the thought of getting a few more every now and then. Girls who do this are the most blessed angels around. Now off to give her some surprises of my own.

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My girlfriend and I are interested in finding other people to join us for some sexcapades, however we are not having much luck finding people among our friends and acquaintances. We would great appreciate some advise on how to get the ball rolling: where to look, how to bring up the subject, anything. Thanks in advance.

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I continue to be surprised by comments indicating that people are reluctant to do this. To me, sexual compatibility is important, and oral sex is a featured item on the menu at all times. Any man who gets involved with me is going to have my mouth on his cock a lot, and I expect him to reciprocate with enthusiasm.

I have a friend who considers it a startling anomaly when she encounters a man who’s willing to go down. Someone else in a discussion said she receives oral sex once for every 10 times she performs it. And I’ve seen plenty of despairing or bitter comments from husbands who never get blowjobs, and young men whose girlfriends think it’s “gross.”

If I had a new lover and discovered that he didn’t like giving oral sex, he would be out on the sidewalk before he finished putting his pants back on. (That said, I’m 40 and I’m dealing with reasonably experienced lovers in my own age range. When I was 18, I would have let the guy finish getting his pants on before booting him out the door.) I’m sorry, I don’t mean to be insensitive to people who had ultra-strict religious upbringings or past traumatic experiences. I hope those folks find each other and gently shed their inhibitions together.

But otherwise: Why do people put up with this? How do people wind up with such withholding partners?

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I rolled a blunt for us, and I’m waiting patently in my lingerie. He wonders why I never initiate sex.

Sorry, I’m just ranting, and it’s not like I can post this to facebook or tell any of my people friends.

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