me and my boyfriend used to have sex every day. But ever since I got pregnant, it has become less and less frequent. Now I’m six months, and it seems as it never happens. I know that this is not uncommon to happen in relationships. At first I was insecure about it, thinking it was because of my now rapidly increasing stomach size. But the thing is, when we DO have sex, its GOOD, but we’ve definitely fallen into a pattern. So, its his birthday today and I’m looking for tips on how to instigate the sex, and sexy things for pregnant ladies to do. perhaps tips on dirty talking. Please help me get laid, Reddit.

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…but I’ve been having sex for a few years.

I lost my virginity when I was just shy of 15 to my boyfriend of the time. He was on the smaller side of average, but definitely not tiny. It was slightly uncomfortable, but I didn’t bleed. We were together for a while and had plenty of sex.

I am now just shy of 19. Between my first fuck and current boyfriend, I was with two guys who had huge dicks. One was a long term boyfriend and the other way a hook up for two months at the beginning of this summer. I decidedly prefer rough sex to that gentle love-making bullshit.

I recently started dating my current boyfriend. He’s not as big as the last two guys that I have had sex with, but he’s probably rougher. He’s also uncircumcised, if that makes any difference. Anyway, the first time we had sex there was no issue. The second and third time, however, I bled. He was incredibly calm about it but I freaked out. He assured me it wasn’t anything to worry about and said that we probably just needed to use lube, and it probably had something to do with my size.

However, upon a recent re-examination of the area, there seems to have been change. There is less skin (or membrane or whatever) covering the opening to my vaginal canal. I know (and have known) that this is exactly where and what the hymen is, but I thought that I was open enough that I definitely did not have a hymen. After all, I’ve been having plenty of sex for roughly four years! It has, however, always kind of hurt, which is no longer the case. It was never enough pain where I thought it was a problem, but enough where I noticed. I always just thought that this was because I’m very thin, in the bone-structure way. I’m a true size double zero in pants, which is to say a size go-somewhere-else at a store with vanity sizing.

Is it possible that I’ve been having sex for years without my hymen breaking? I feel like this is an absurd hypothesis but it’s the only thing that makes sense. Is there any other possibility? I tried to provide as much information as possible, though if I left anything necessary out please let me know. I am very confused right now.

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… or punishment …

I have seen many posts here where it appears that women “let” the guy have sex as some kind of a “reward” for behaving the right way.

Or no sex as punishment “You didnt do something and now I wont let you have sex for 2 weeks”

Also I have seen posts where it is seen as a great gift when a woman has sex.

Not to belittle other’s opinion but if someone doesnt want to have sex with their partner and uses it as some kind of tool to get what they want then something is big time wrong (IMO).

So please speak up:

Do you use sex as a tool to get what you want or punish?

Do you not like sex and let it happen for all sorts of reasons?

Are you on the receiving (no pun) end of such things?

reposted this to here per mods advise

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we’ve been married for over a year, me 22, he 24. we dated for 3 years before getting married. our sex life was pretty good, several times a day in the first few months, and it slowly dwindled. i thought our sex life couldnt be any better! we had the usual bumps and sex would go down to a 1-2 times a week, then back to almost daily/ 7-9x weekly id say.

wedding planning was difficult and we had a lot of trouble, a LOT of stress on our relationship, and i ended up very disappointed. he didnt follow thru with a lot of promises. i didnt feel special or happy or.. excited on our wedding day (mainly because he complained that it shouldnt be “all about her,” so i made a point to say, “ok, it IS about both of us! here you go.” i got a cheap, unflattering dress, no friends or bridesmaids, no guests, sigh.. disappointing). i dont know what happened. he reflects on it saying i pressured him into getting married, that he didnt want to yet. i really dont remember this. i thought we agreed lol. he says he didnt do much because he didnt want to get married quite yet. i didnt want the wedding (i wanted to hold out for a nice wedding, but he wanted to rush it) we agreed to, either, so we both seem a little lost with this.

anyway, our relationship suddenly crashed i almost feel like, on the wedding day. :/ he got upset with me on the wedding night, after i spent a whole day scrambling with no help from him, and although we worked through a lot of the problems and had an ok honeymoon, things just piled on. -Note, we planned to have the “big” wedding/ celebration at some point later on, so we kind of short-changed ourselves . there was a lot of religious pressure to be married. we are no longer religious.- As SOON as we got home after the honeymoon, he was unusually pushy about sex. i went along with it at first, but after a few weeks i began to feel less and less ok with it, so i mentioned it, and the real problem began. communication came to a halt.

over the next 6 months i went thru a personal hell, with a new husband, job, house, with him refusing to discuss anything related to sex/ how he was acting and treating me regarding it. flat out ignored me, clammed up, i didnt exist whenever i mentioned his behavior made me uncomfortable. i tried discussing this from every angle. sex was infrequent, and always to get him off my back. i lost all interest and a lot of respect, but felt like it was a phrase, a rough patch, everyone says the first year is the worst. we’d been together for 3 years, right? things got worse, and 6 months after getting married i moved out, after a lot of crying and no fighting, when he suddenly told me to leave. he took it back just the next day, but it was horrible, and i couldnt just come back. i was humiliated. he made me feel shitty for my wedding day, made me feel like an object as a wife, and was dismissed suddenly after convincing himself it was purely me that was the problem, that he needn’t change.

here i am, 8 months later, still recovering. we were separated for 2 months, worked together and saw a counselor, then i moved back in, giving it a very hesitant 2nd chance. things have gotten better, we’ve grown closer, he has progressed A TON with communication, etc, and i am somewhat happier with him (honestly. i tell myself it takes more time.) my sex drive is no where where it was pre-marriage, and we are both very discouraged. he is just as horny as ever, and i am also pretty horny, but when it comes to doing the deed, with him… i just cant put the effort into it. i just still cant put myself out on that limb with him. i know im still hurt with what has happened between us recently. i feel like i need that grand gesture, those grand gestures i never got, the way he never made me feel, like i was exceptional or special, really… special to him. hes agrees to the “big” ceremony makeup sometime, but i dont think it will actually make up for anything. :/

is sex the real problem here?

tl;dr – im still recovering from issues that exploded months ago. i emotionally cant let myself connect with him. im constantly self-conscious and very sensitive, for the first time in our relationship. i never used to shy away from intimacy like this. will my trust come back with time? Thoughts?

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Is sex in France different from the way its done in the good old U.S. of A.? Using this video (appropriately titled “Sex in France”) as our representative sample, we’ve determined that the answer is no. More

I wrote this lighthearted guide after reading MySexxitAcct’s “Failed Dirty Talking 101″ post. Dirty talking was abruptly introduced to my sex life a few years ago, and it’s been incredible. This guide is based on what I’ve learned and what’s worked for me. But it would be awesome if everyone shared their own ideas and experience.

Why talk dirty?

In the years following my recovery from the awkwardness surrounding the loss of my virginity, I spent a great deal of time searching for that magic physical technique, the one that would transform me into a Sex God (or at least a minor deity). Like many young men I figured there was some magic penetrative geometry, bodily arrangement, or a special set of places and timings to press or rub that would activate the orgasm cheat code.

A few years ago, failed by the internet and a small library of sex books, a very special girl taught me a very special lesson (though I do suffer from a very sexy learning disability). I haven’t seen her in a long time but her lesson has stayed with me through all of the lovers I’ve had since.

Dirty talk is the closest thing to the “magic technique” I’ve ever found. Do it right and she’ll come faster, harder, and maybe even more times. And she’ll leave your bed thinking you’re a bit more of a stud then you actually are

But when I talk dirty I sound stupid!

Yeah, you do. But guess what? You look stupid too. We all do, have you seen the faces we make during sex? Watched other people have sex outside of porn or the movies? Sex looks like it was intended to be a practical joke on humanity… quivering sweaty meat bags shooting DNA at each other… but that hasn’t stopped us from doing it. Don’t let self consciousness stop you from talking dirty because, after all, the only thing that sounds stupider than loud sex is silent sex.

What do I need to know first?

Her limits. But, before that:

Most women want to be dominated and objectified… in the comfort of a safe consenting setting with a man they trust and care about to some degree. This is a statistical law, not an absolute one, so exercise caution, but I’ve found it to be overwhelmingly true.

Additionally, she wants to see herself as a sexual creature, one that’s so overpoweringly irresistable that you just have to have her right this fucking instant. The things you say when you’re talking dirty will reflect these two concepts.

Ok, so where are her limits?

All over the place, but that’s the real key to success and we’ll get to it in a moment.

First, figure out some baseline limits. Maybe she’s down with being called degrading names, maybe she’s not. Maybe she hates the word “cunt”… if so, don’t use it (not for a while, at least). These are simple things, when in doubt err slightly on the side of caution. You can always escalate things tomorrow or next week.

No, let’s go back to the “key to success” part…

Ok, so this is probably obvious by now, but let’s just pretend like I’m clever and came up with something insightful.

The key to success is saying the right thing at the right time. The limits of what is acceptable/appropriate will move all over the place during the course of a sexual encounter. Telling a girl you’re going to “fuck her little pussy raw” when you start snuggling up on the couch might be fine with some chicks. With others it will break the mood, and still others it will get you slapped. But telling her she smells good while you’re pounding away and she’s on the edge of a screaming orgasm will probably stagger the flow of things in its own way.

Enough of your bullshit, just give me some stuff to say.

Fine, fine.

There’s an old saying that dirty talk is just saying “What I’m going to do to you, what I’m doing to you, and what I just did to you.” This is a great starting point, but with a little thought we can be more engaging.

Let’s break it up into three regions of the dirty-talk spectrum: tame, dirty, and filthy. The following are just examples, be creative!

Tame – these warm things up during foreplay and as foreplay transitions into sex. Be suggestive, be flirty. Tease and taunt, push and pull.

God you smell/look good I’ve been thinking about you all day/I know you’ve been thinking about me all day Fuck, girl, that is a hot ass/stomach/waist I can taste you on my lips already (when you’re about to go down on her) Fuck, you’ve got me all worked up Guess what? You’re mine tonight I can’t even tell you the filthy things I’ve been thinking about all day/thinking about doing to you Look how hard you’ve got me/Look how wet I’ve made you I’m gonna make you scream, you sexy girl/bitch/thing

Dirty – these are for while you’re going at it, the slight awkwardness of foreplay is gone and the hormones have taken over

Oh yeah, take that cock baby/bitch Fuck, that feels incredible. Yeah, you’re my sexy little girl/bitch/whore/slut Who’s my sexy little girl/bitch/whore/slut? You like that? You like that cock in that tight little pussy? God, you’re so sexy, you drive me fucking crazy Fuck girl, I know you’ve been thinking about getting fucked/fucking me all day You’re a bad little girl/bitch/slut. You know what happens to bad little girls like you? Yeah, work that pussy/ass. Good girl, just like that. You like it when I fill up that hot wet little pussy?

Filthy/aggressive – some girls want this the whole time, others not at all. Most girls will like some amount of filthy, especially near climax. It must be complemented by physical agression (spanking/slapping/hair pulling/rough handling/hard fucking) in order to not seem out of place. If you want to test the waters my suggestion is to try some filthy talk while she’s getting close to orgasm. If it speeds her along… success!

I’m gonna fuck that tight little cunt till you come all over my cock You like that you filthy fucking whore/cunt/bitch? I’m gonna blow, I’m gonna fill that pussy up with cum! You dirty little bitch/whore/cunt, you’re MY dirty little bitch/whore/cunt I’m gonna fuck you till you scream my fucking name I know you want that cum in you, you dirty little whore/bitch/cunt That little pussy’s gonna explode all over my cock You wanna feel it? You wanna feel me cum in that pussy?

…and so on…

Well I guess I can give it a try… any final thoughts?

Yeah, two. First, your voice is very important. Talk in a low, calm voice. Remember, you are a fucking sex superstar, your voice should ooze supreme confidence.

Second, as you get used to talking dirty, get her involved. Girls like to say dirty shit too, and they like being dominated. Making her repeat things back to you fires on both cylinders.

You: God, you’re such a dirty little bitch. You know that?

Her: Yes!

You: Wrong, you’re MY dirty little bitch. Say it!

Her: I’m your dirty little bitch!

You: Louder!

Her: I’M YOUR DIRTY LITTLE BITCH!

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My girlfriend of nearly 7 years cheated on me with a married man with a kid. Is it my place to contact the wife? My GF used protection with the guy but I guess they started having sex without a condom at first. She had sex with me since she started cheating on me with this guy. I obviously will be getting tested shortly, but on this simple fact alone, I feel the wife should know. I really don’t know what to do in a situation like this. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.

submitted by recentlycheatedon [link] [21 comments]

We’ve been married 8 years. The first few years were great, however the sex slowly tapered off & has been virtually non-existent for the past three years.

She says that she finds sex to be gross & therefore has no interest in it. She says that if I were truly a loving husband it wouldn’t matter – that I’d deal with it & everything would be fine.

I approached her about sex this evening, she said no & I lost it. What she doesn’t understand is that physical intimacy is very important to me. I’ve tried to talk to her about it one on one, have suggested counseling, you name it. The lack of sex is causing serious issues for me, in how I view her & our relationship. It has caused me to back away from her & as a result we don’t have the close relationship we once did.

I’m seriously considering divorce over this. Am I being an irrational ass about this, or is this a legitimate reason to end a marriage? We have no children, FWIW.

EDIT – This isn’t funny Reddit

submitted by extravirginhusband [link] [672 comments]

This has been puzzling me for a long time and I’d love to know what you guys do about it.

Context: You’re about to have sex with new your partner for the first time. You haven’t known each other for long, it could be even the infamous “sex on the first date”. You don’t care so much about receiving fellatio, but you definitely want to make a good impression and giving some cunnilingus would be a great way to make it.

Problem is you don’t know this person too well, you have absolutely no guarantee that you will not catch something unfortunate from her, and she of course might get something from you (let’s assume you get tested and are clean). Excluding foreplay (yeah yeah, sex is more than oral and penetration, let’s not go there) the only thing you could do is probably get a blowjob with a condom on (most girls hate the taste) or just good old regular penetration.

What do you do in these cases if the girl expects you to go down on her? Do you man it up and play the STD roulette? Is there a nice way to phrase this to her, so that she doesn’t leave cause you’re being too safe? Maybe it’s a one night stand, there’s not going to be a “let’s do it after we get tested”.

I actually believe that most people don’t care, which is probably terrible. I personally experienced this with my last ex where the first time we had sex, she just went straight for a bareback blowjob with no questions asked, and I had to stop her right away to tell her that it was in her own interest to wait until we’re tested. At the time we knew we were going to stick around, so there was no issue with it, but it was certainly a bit of a buzzkil at the moment.

What’s your experience with being a safe bed hero?

submitted by glitch0 [link] [1 comment]

My close female friend and I had a conversation about sex and she told me that she’s never gushed or squirted for fear that it might have be pee. She’s had this feeling twice and stopped herself from doing it to avoid weirdness.

Was she experiencing an orgasm? Is it even possible for females to pee that late into sex?

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