So I had my first threesome last weekend and really enjoyed it. My SO and I have been talking about adding a girl to our bedroom activities for a while to spice things up, but an opportunity never really presented itself. What was fun to talk about during sexytime seemed like it would never actually happen. I was always curious about being with another girl but have never had an experience with one. After years and years of just talking about it, we found a girl friend who was game. He flirted with her a bit first and posed the idea and she was totally in – and not her first time either. Since she is an acquaintance (not a close friend) I felt comfortable with trying things out with her – knowing if things were awkward, I didn’t have to see her much.

So last weekend she came over for dinner and a movie. I figured we would cuddle a little, maybe kiss.. see how things felt and then maybe go further another time. Boy was I in for a surprise! Things went MUCH further MUCH faster than I expected.. and also to my surprise, I really enjoyed it.

He instigated a little cuddle time on the couch – we snuggled, held hands and eventually started kissing. After about 10 minutes of making out, he suggested we girls go upstairs and make ourselves more comfortable. We obliged and continued making out for a few minutes alone before he came up to join us. We all three started kissing and exploring each other. Before long, our tops were off and I had my first experience with licking and sucking another girl’s nipples. Her breasts were soft and round and fit nicely in my hand; her nipples quickly hardening against my tongue. Meanwhile, he was kissing her and exploring under his pants with his hands. She slid her hand into my pants and did some exploring of her own. Our pants were quickly removed and we moved over onto the bed. We kissed for a bit longer letting our hands explore each other. She whispered, “I want to eat you” and despite being a bit nervous, I nodded OK. WOW. She was amazing. She alternated fingering me and licking me while he had his hard cock sliding in and out of my mouth. I’ve always been an oral girl and having him in my mouth while she pleasured me with hers was A-MA-ZING!

We switched and I returned the favor. I slid my fingers into her tight wetness and fingered her g-spot while I tasted her clit. She tasted delightful and hearing her moan and cry out my name while I tongued her was an amazing turn-on. He switched to fucking her mouth while I got her off with my mouth. After finishing her, we made out for a little longer before finally admitting it was time to call it a night.

We definitely have plans for a repeat adventure. He wants to have sex with her while I watch and she has a toy she wants to try out with the two of us. I really enjoyed the experience and am excited to try more.

For those of you out there who have been in similar situations, how do we make sure we avoid any jealousy and hurt feelings? I want to make sure we have fun but don’t do any damage to our relationship.

TL;DR – had a girl-girl-guy threesome and had a great time. Want to repeat, but want to make sure we don’t damage our relationship in the process.

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So I know this tale is as old as time, but I have a problem with stamina and I’m on the slightly smaller size of average. I also have pretty bad anxiety, which I’m sure is the reason why I can’t last very long. My real issue now is I’m too nervous to meet new girls (I’m a college student) because I’m afraid that once we get down to business, I’ll be inadequate and they won’t be interested afterward. I have no problem meeting and flirting with girls (I’ve been told I’m good looking), but I end up making excuses or ending the flings before they can get to the bedroom because I’m scared that I’ll be laughed out of bed. I’ve had a half dozen partners, but 4 of them were long term girlfriends, and the other 2 were a one night thing, mostly because I came in about a minute, and was too embarrassed to pursue any further intimacy.

Any tips, or advice from men or women about what I can do about this? I’ve tried every method to last longer including kegels, but nothing seems to help. This is having a huge effect on me because I see friends meeting people and having hook ups, but I feel like I’m going to be forever alone or get cheated on because I can’t hold my own in bed. I always do everything I can besides actual intercourse to make sure they’re satisfied, but I get the feeling that it just doesn’t cut it a lot of the time. Women, if a guy couldn’t perform well the first time, would you give him some time to work into a groove and become more comfortable and/or are you okay with getting off other ways?

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I’ve been battling a /r/DeadBedroom situation for some years now– not as bad as some, but my wife and I had fallen under the once a month mark for some time. Feeling frustrated and hopeless, I dug around the internet for advice, and found /r/Sex.

…and all I heard from both subreddits was, “have you talked to her?” Over and over. I kept trying to explain that we just weren’t like that– sex wasn’t something we talked about directly. The response: “talk anyway”. I threw up my hands; they just didn’t get it.

Before and during my visits here, I tried all sorts of things– different approaches to sex, self-improvement, helping around the house– to limited results. Some of my efforts actually seemed to make matters worse. The only thing that really seemed to help was a massively uncomfortable talk a few months back, after which I saw gradual improvement to a tolerable frequency.

Still, I wasn’t happy. I knew I’d been vague about my desires, but felt I’d opened up as much as a could without offending or hurting my wife. Then, during an extensive exchange with EncasedMeats, something clicked: I suddenly realized that there was no good reason for me to feel sheepish about my sex drive. Society treats sex as a shameful thing, to be spoken of only in hushed tones or not at all, only because society wants to stay in the good graces of a god that I don’t even think exists. What’s more, I knew for a fact that my wife shares these exact sensibilities, but she’d been conditioned to these preposterously repressive cultural “norms” even moreso than myself.

I knew I had to talk with her again, to share my new perspective, let her know that we need to feel comfortable talking about sex, and tell her what I wanted. I also knew that I’m very bad at keeping a coherent train of thought when I’m nervous, so I composed a letter. I solicited some feedback from EncasedMeats and Maxxters, who gave me some really good advice, particularly about what I hadn’t said but ought to have. I tinkered with the wording for a few days, and finally worked up the nerve to hand her the letter last night.

I had spun all sorts of scenarios in my head, and if I didn’t expect an outright disaster, I had my fears. As it turns out, everything went better than expected. She’s open to more sex, and some more variety. She absolutely agrees with my assessment of why we’re so uptight talking about it, and wants to improve.

This is a work in progress, of course. We both have to follow through, and that won’t always feel easy or natural. And I wasn’t 100% open in the letter; I have some interests I’m still keeping to myself. Maybe mojoupgrade will help (I’ve asked her to take the test with me), but I honestly think we’re moving in a direction where I may be able to open up more over time, an unthinkable notion just a few days ago. In any event, I feel better and more optimistic about my chances for a truly satisfying sex life than… well, ever, actually.

So, yeah, when they keep saying “communicate”, they’re not kidding– it took me from hopeless to wildly optimistic in the span of just a few months. My only additional advice is to spend some time gathering your thoughts before initiating a conversation, and take the time to question your own motives and faults.

Thanks, guys. Couldn’t have done it without you.

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I’ve just ended a 7 year long term relationship and 3 years of marriage. This was due to what I thought was mis-matched sex drives. Turns out I think I was just bored silly and just didn’t know any better. Not only was it enjoyable (was still horny the next day from thinking about it) , the whole process was very interesting and I thought others might find it so.

I had never done something like this before and was curious to find out what it was all about. After researching legal brothels and illegal call girls, I decided to try out a well established brothel nearby. Due to a habit of over thinking things, I decided to wait until just after midnight when there was a shift change (according to the roster) in order to avoid a possible busy period and to catch a girl who’s fresh and just starting her shift. I parked and noticed only 2 other cars aside from the shitty hatchbacks that girls normally drive. Bingo! First tactic successful. I climb the stairs to reception and after 5 minutes I was advised of a 30 min wait. Upon indicating that this was ok, I was invited through the security door into a pleasant waiting/interview room decorated in a certain theme and two plaques were attached to the wall. One advised of the rates by time and suggested that any requests or extras could be negotiated at extra cost with the lady of your choice. The other advised that no service would be provided sans prophylactic. Of 5 or 6 rooms only mine and one or two others were occupied. These rooms have a camera in them. I assume they use these to see if they know you or if you’re drunk or weird. During my wait, I read a magazine and watched the Andrew Blake porn video being fed into the small tv in the corner. I left the door open to see what the goings on were like. The receptionist/madam was loud and I guess bored but would come round every now and again to check on the the waiting rooms. Not long after sitting down it seemed that every young guy in the town decided to show up for some fun. Each successive hopeful was greeted with a longer wait time. This I found very amusing as I often find that it seems the whole world wants to be where I am within 5 mins of my arrival. I’ve often thought of charging businesses for my XMen-style ability. One of the guys was so drunk, he stumbled in after agreeing to a 90 min wait! He stumbled out again after 15 min I think. Eventually the girls came around and introduced themselves briefly and each asked if I had any questions. The first was a short but lovely blonde girl about 20 years old. The second was an older and taller girl probably around 30 with red-brown hair, cellulite on her legs even though she was not overweight and wearing a burlesque style lingerie set who was nice and assured me I would have fun. The last was a tall, fit, just under 30 and quite pretty brunette who was nice enough to explain how things worked when she found out it was my first time. Naturally, I chose her when the madame came by to ask which lady I liked. I went to the cashier and paid $200 for 45 mins. I was given half back in a folder like they use for change in a restaurant and told to give that to ‘Katie’. Katie was told to go to a room with a certain theme and off we went. She had her bag with her indicating that she might have just got there. Bingo! Second tactic possibly successful. It was a very nice room! Spa, stripper pole, modern bathroom, 4 post bed, tv, large balcony, nicely decorated to theme.

Realizing I was a noob, she talked me through every step of the pre-coitus ritual. I got her to explain the extras thing. She said that a back massage, oral sex and regular sex were included in the price. Extras were considered to be kissing, “the girlfriend experience” or going down on her, among others. I chose kissing for an extra $50 just because I didn’t want it to seem like a completely sterile transaction and she was cute. First was the twig and berries inspection. She sat on a chair, told me drop my pants and turned a lamp onto my junk. She then proceeded to inspect me for any nasties and was quickly satisfied. Next, she told me to take a shower in the ensuite while she got things ready. Last was the mouthwash ritual of which we both took part. This felt like being married again. Jockeying for sink space, trying to interpret her gargling into human speech (which was cute), cleaning up spilled mouthwash. Then it was off to the bedroom. Music was already playing and the room’s lighting was dimmed and a porno that was only one scene long seemed to be looped over and over again on the tv. She invited me to lie face down on the bed and gave me a back massage. She turned me over and we kissed lightly for a while and then she rolled a condom onto my dick with her mouth and proceeded to give me blowjob which I could barely feel because the condom felt like it was made out of a washing-up glove. I guess I’m not used to them after 10 years of bareback. After a short while she climbed on top and we went for it. There were mirrors placed strategically around the room which allowed me to enjoy her stunning, tanned body. We went through a few positions and ended in doggy style. She also asked to let her know if I was about to come. She kept a good eye on the time and she helped me finish in time to have a few minutes to cool off and recover which was nice. We both showered again and then lay on the bed chatting for a few minutes about how 2011 sucked and how 2012 seems to have brought a lot of good change. She agreed quite emphatically and seemed to be struggling internally with some indecision. I told her that considering the amount of change happening in the world at the moment, a decision to make something different would probably be a good choice. She seemed more relaxed afterward. We chatted some more while I got dressed and she changed the sheets. Then she showed me out, through a sneaky exit I hadn’t noticed before, to the parking area with a final hug and a kiss and a request to come back. I left feeling pretty good and with somehow a better perspective on my sexual relationship with my recently ex wife. It seemed to have exorcised some demons.

TL/DR: Recent marriage went to shit, got laid by a hot as fuck whore at a legal whorehouse and left feeling better about life. How original.

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One thing that I’ve been able to replicate a good number of times is getting girls to orgasm during regular sex with me via verbal commands. It doesn’t work on every girl, but when it does take hold it’s pretty fun. It’s something I’ve had a lot of fun with, and all of the girls who’ve shared it with me have enjoyed it too. NOTE: This is JUST my experience, and I’m sure there are plenty of other ways to make this happen, and i’m sure someone else here can jump in with relevant experience. I hope some of you will be able to do this!

My method breaks down to a few elements, but of course is no exact science.

1.) Dominant sexual identity. Every time i hook up with a girl, I’

You know, it’s not the most thrilling or active example of cowgirl fucking we’ve ever seen, but gosh darnit, you can tell the gentleman below is really having a great time, and that’s enough for us. More

Live Show Mondays continue with part 2 of 4 from November with the delectable Isis Love co-topping the vulnerable Kaylee Hilton.

Her pink puffy pussy waits to be exploited with her arms and legs tied up and out. Isis unleashes her strap on fucking skills to burry cock deep into Kaylee’s pretty little hole. Time to overload this sopping wet cunt.Then we suction cup her clit to make it ultra sensitive when the vibe is whipped out and she is double teamed, made to cum her brains out.

The first time I tried a long time ago she knew that she had an odor and was self conscious and made me stop. I will admit it was difficult but I wanted to and would have dealt with it. Up until last Sunday night she would not let me. We have both lost over 100lbs and our eating habits have really changed(her lap-band, me – gastric bypass) and she has lost the odor. She still almost cried when I told her I wanted to(please was asked of course). We both showered since we had scuzzed out over the weekend.

We cuddled and kissed for a little bit and I asked if she was ready. She teared up a little and said, “yes”. So I worked my way down and she seemed to enjoy the first little quick, darting tongue probes. I then tried more of those and humming while putting my mouth over her labia majora and there was no more reaction from before so I looked up and asked – “does the humming do anything”, she smiled and said, “no”. So I did not do that anymore. I used the zig-zag pattern and that garnered a better reaction. I moved away from the clitoris and vaginal opening and kissed all over the place without going to the labia minora and known good zones. I kissed and sucked(and offered a little biting on her inner thighs and then attacked her clitoris again. She came so fast(usually a 10 minute exercise with my fingers(clitoris only) I was not expecting it. She is not a squirter(yet) so I have more work to do. However while I was writing this I was asking her questions about the other night and found out some things – Kissing other places, does nothing for her, clitoris only, we are going to do a 69 soon and the greatest thing I have heard about her sexually in a long time, she played with her own boobs! She tells me she has masturbated before but does not now, which I think should change. She says she is “just fine”, but I think we should do a night where we masturbate watching each other.

Thanks for letting me tell someone. It is kind of difficult to bring up in normal conversation with our friends.

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Hi sexxit, I’m 17m, and to summarize: My first time, i lasted 20 and 40 minutes. It was amazing, made my GF orgasm twice, felt like THE MAN, etc etc. ALL the subsequent times we’ve had sex were 10 minutes or less. Mostly less. I cannot explain this, nor can anyone else. If you can, that would be awesome. Now, on to my questions.

Right now, i’m doing kegels and lifting small amounts of weight (washcloth, as recommended by another sexxit thread) with the PC muscles to work them out. I’m also trying to increase the time of my masturbation. Can anyone else think of anything I should be doing or really just have any tips?

Thanks guys (and girls!)

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I hadn’t even slept off my ham hangover this Christmas before the sales pitches started hitting my inbox. The very first came from Apple, telling me “Now it’s time to treat yourself.” I couldn’t agree more — in my book, it’s always time to treat myself. But is it just my imagination, or do more [...]