Hmmm… What’s insulting, reductive and straight-up shitty about the new ads for .XXX? Maybe that porn is not, in fact, moving its prime .com real estate to .XXX? Maybe that women are not pieces of sexualized furniture? Maybe that the women in porn are people – not objects 24-7? Maybe that a representation of a [...]

I sometimes wish I was a women so I could have all the sex I wanted. But how many of you, who aren’t in some kind of relationship involving sex, actually get sex when you desire it? Is it really easier for women to get laid compared to men? If so, how do you go about getting it?

submitted by P0RN574R [link] [13 comments]

*This is only in cases where it is not a frequent occurrence in a relationship: *

Woman declines sex to her BF/Husband. BF/Husband usually just gets over it.

Man declines sex to his GF/Wife. GF/Wife becomes hostile, cold, distant, blames the man for being ‘made’ to feel worthless, emotional blackmail …. etc

Not all women are like this (and I think it’s far more common in younger women) but I think some women really need to be more conscious that the stereotype of men being crazed horn-dogs is wrong and that from time-to-time it’s completely fair and reasonable to be rejected sexually by your partner. Sometimes guys just don’t feel up for it and women need to just get over it like we’re expected to.

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I’m going to tell you some basic things I’ve learned over the years, from women, books and anywhere else I could. I’m doing this because I would have killed to have known some of this stuff before-hand, so it is my duty to help some brothers out. I went from being pretty inexperienced with not a lot of stamina to being able to get women off two or three times a go. Not everything in here will work for everyone, and the best thing to do in a serious relationship is to actually talk to your sexual partner but sometimes that drunk chick you picked up from the bar isn’t necessarily interested in talking. This is all stuff you could find on Google if you search things like “oral/foreplay/sex tips” and since I’ve done that, used some of the techniques ..here are some basic tips.

Premature Ejaculation

What lot of guys do wrong when masturbating is to try and get the deed done with as fast as possible. I did the same thing. This will hard-wire your brain into thinking that this is what has to happen every time. Sometimes pre-mature ejaculation is just in the genetics (so to speak) but this technique will help you. What you need to do while you’re jerking off is literally right before the point of no return, stop. Don’t touch it, just let it settle down. Continue this process, although now you’ll pretty much be on the edge every time you start back up, just keep stopping before the point of no return. You need to do this for about 10-15 minutes and I know it might sound like a lot but it pays off in the end. Also, your orgasm will be un-fucking-believably better.

A similar method is every time you pee, use only your muscles to stop yourself. Do this like 3-5 times a pee. Over time this muscle will get stronger and it will get easier, but combine these two methods together and that will definitely help with any pre-mature ejaculation that might be going on. This goes for all males, and seriously I don’t know why these methods aren’t more widespread.

Foreplay

So you’re rounding the bases and you want to start getting her all warmed up. Do NOT just stick your hand down her pants and start paddling her boat. Make sure your hands are wet if you want to get anywhere close to her clitoris ..touching it with dry hands will actually cause pain. Also, listen very carefully to her moans and hip motions while you’re doing this because it will be a signal to you as to how much she is enjoying it. You are not trying to remove paint with sand-paper. Although a lot of women like different things, the main thing is to start slow and don’t always use the same motion, switch up the speed and direction every once in a while (again, you don’t need to apply a whole lot of pressure down there). Also, her nipples are not radio dials. If you want to get a little rough with them, cup your hand at the base of her breast and slide it up to her nipple and just as you get there, pinch it VERY gently with your thumb and index finger. I find a lot of women really love this. Don’t forget she has two

Fingering

Although this can be classified under foreplay, I feel like it deserves its own. One thing to note is make sure your fingernails are trimmed. If they aren’t, you should probably stay away from this area in general. If you decide to venture inside, the top of the inside is, from what I’ve been told, the most pleasurable spot. If you’re having a hard time wondering what I’m talking about, just imagine fingering the girl and making a ‘come here’ motion with your fingers. Again, you shouldn’t be inserting anything anywhere that isn’t properly lubricated (either from natural or synthetic products). Also, I’ve had some girls who just want me to finger fuck them as hard and as fast as I can ..she will let you know what she wants, but if she doesn’t ..you can always ask her.

Oral

For many this will be common sense, but women are not looking to see how far you can jam your tongue inside of her. This one is all about the man in the boat. Before you get to business going down on her, tease her a little bit first. Kiss her stomach below the belly button, work your way to one of her thighs, gently kissing it as you inch closer and closer to the sweet spot. Gently start massaging her clit with your tongue ..you don’t need to push hard with your tongue and if you find that your tongue is tired after 5 minutes ..you’re not doing it right. I’ve had women go crazy with just gently massaging it ..running my tongue around it and then snapping my tongue in and out real fast (I guess similar to the action you would make if you were imitating a snakes tongue, but obviously faster) but directly on the man in the boat. Repeat it all the moves for abit, maybe add some fingers, until shes nice and wet or whenever you think it’s time to get to the fun stuff.

Fun Stuff [Sex]

This one will almost always be different depending on the women. Especially the “g-spot”. Some men claim that it is never in the same spot twice. Your partner will let you know by their actions/sounds when you’re doing it right. I typically start off slow. I never ever try to force myself inside of her. If you’re having trouble getting it in, use some kind of lube or your own saliva. Don’t ever ask questions while you’re having sex either. What I mean is, if you want her to flip over onto her stomach/back ..you tell her “hey, flip over on your stomach babe ..I wanna fuck you doggy style”. Depending on the intimacy level of the two of you, whispering something like that into her ear and saying it with a good level of confidence will usually turn them on.

Disclaimer I’m 26 and have a girlfriend of 3 years and had many sexual partners. I was inexperienced once, but never shy to ask questions from my female friends and girlfriends. This is all stuff that I’ve learned and tried over the years and I’m giving you the ones that worked best for me.

If you have any questions you want to ask or just want to share your own advice, please do!

submitted by netr0 [link] [62 comments]

My wife gets very sensitive after her first orgasm (usually brought about orally, sometimes manually), to the point that she doesn’t want me to touch her clitoris at all– she very seldom allows me to bring her off a second time orally unless I ease into it very gradually, and brushes my hand away if I try to rub her clit during intercourse. (For the record, she’s enthusiastic enough about both of these activities if she hasn’t had an orgasm yet.)

I see an awful lot of posts here where women come 3/7/9+ times in a session. I know a certain percentage of women have refractory periods more like that of men, but the frequency of multi-orgasmic women here has me concerned that my marriage may be sex-starved because I’m not bringing the goods.

submitted by lifeaftersex [link] [12 comments]

I am a fairly scrawny guy and whenever I am with a girl, I just feel like they must just be thinking about how weak I am. I can’t really pick a girl up easily or anything, no matter how small they are. How do you make a woman feel comfortable with you? I would love your advice as well women!

submitted by Sammyt1215 [link] [21 comments]

I used to not care about sex that much, sure I would fap and whatnot, but I’m the standard forever alone, tall, thin, awkward guy who never used to think about talking to women and would just leave it at that, content with myself. I would see women and not think anything of them, or think of talking to them.

NOW! For some reason, I can’t look at a woman without instantly looking at her tits, no matter what. I never had this problem before, but now I just walk by and my internal commentary goes from “I wonder what I got on that test” to “oh my god, tits, tits, tits, tits, tits, tits” whenever I see a pair anywhere and it’s starting to piss me off. I can’t control it, if it’s a movie, in real life, I actually just start to think abou them and now it is making me more nervous than ever and don’t think I’ll ever able to leave my forever alone status.

tl;dr: I can’t stop thinking about tits and it is making me more awkward than usual.

submitted by throwawaynumber13 [link] [3 comments]

as a 25 year old male I am wondering when these feelings will fade, or if I need to sleep with as many women as possible in order to get tired of these sexual urges.

In my experience it is not about me sleeping with one woman multiple times, I have had fantastic faithful relationships where I had sex 5 days a week and I still am addicted to thoughts of new women.

I love women, everyone of them is like a snowflake with a new smell and new perspectives on life

I am helpless to my reptilian part of my brain.

I have self control but it sucks, If I could spend the rest of my life on a tropical island banging women I would do it no questions asked

when will these urges stop?

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OK reddit, usually I am just a lurker so here is my first post: a plea for everyone to take care of themselves.

For both men and women it is important to have regular check ups, my aunt’s cancer could have been caught earlier.

My mom has been urging me to get this vaccine for a while now. It is a HPV Vaccine which has become affordable and is covered/partially covered under many health care plans(at least in Canada).

Here is the link: http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv-vaccine-young-women.htm

This vaccine is recommended for younger women to help prevent the diseases that cause cervical cancer, among others.

Stay safe!

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The latest episode of (my current favorite show) Boardwalk Empire featured lots of beautiful, naked, unenhanced, all-natural women. They were not shaved or waxed. Mind you, I’m a personal fan of the shaved babe and being hair-free, but the current trend in porn (the porn people look at as opposed to Hollywood porn) features women [...]