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My girlfriend was raped by her father when she was young on multiple occasions, it is very difficult for us to have sex and if I touch her the wrong way she locks up. I am lost at what I should do to help.

So her asshole father raped her and molested her quite frequently when she was younger. Her and I have had sex but it pretty much has to be perfect conditions, otherwise she will lock up or stop me for going any further after our shirts are off.

We've talked about it and she always says she is sorry and it is beyond her control, which I understand and I tell her it is not her fault. I know I am not suppose to try and fix it or problem solve it form the stuff I read, and just instead let her know I am there for her if she wants to talk.

It seems that a lot of foreplay helps as long as I stay away from her vagina. But even then she won't let me take off her pants some times, which makes the end goal difficult.

When she locks up, she will get a headache or stop moving and some times she will shiver. The first time it happened I though she was having a mini seizure because she never told me about her past and it freaked me out.

She is in to me physically and emotionally, though she has a tough time with words, and she is able to hug and kiss me and tell me how happy she is with me. We get a long really well and we have a lot in common and plus I care about her a lot, I want to help her so bad.

I am at a loss on what to do, because when we do have sex she enjoys it a lot as do I of course. It just fucks with my mind a lot because I want to have sex all the time and getting turned down makes me feel like something is wrong with the relationship.

I have never posted here and this is a throwaway account, I hope /r/sex has some insight for me.

Thank you.

Edit: I want to thank everyone for their kind words and help. You have given me a lot of ammunition to help me understand my girlfriend more. This is a wonderful community, I am sorry if I am not a long term member of /r/sex I will pass on the good vibes you have given me and be an advocate for this sub.

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DAE on sexxit feel uncomfortable when they realize very young teenagers post here?

I have absolutely no problem with young people receiving a sex positive message, learning how to be safely and responsibly sexual, etc.

But I kind of assume I’m talking to adults when I post here, so when I see someone mention they’re 13 or 14, it feels very weird. It would be very wrong for me to explicitly discuss my sex life in front a 13 year old in person, so it’s uncomfortable when I realize I’ve inadvertently done so online.

Given that sexxit is popular and there are very young people posting here, are there rules or boundaries in our discussion that we should be more conscious of, or no?

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My girlfriend apparently has no clitoris or labia minora. Need some info if someone can help me out.

My girlfriend has no clitoris or labia minora. I mean I spread her open, took a picture, and put it side by side with a diagram. There is nothing above the urethra. It’s just flat skin (no clitoral hood, either). It does not have a particularly scarred appearance. She agreed with this assessment. She also pointed out she apparently has no labia minora.

I asked her if she had ever heard of FGM. This would make almost no sense as she is East Asian, of one nationality but grew up young in another nation, moved to the US when she was very young, younger than four (keeping it ambiguous). Neither nation has any history or culture of FGM, and her family is not religious.

She had never heard of FGM. We looked it up. She matches Type 2. I asked her if her gyno ever said anything about it, and she admitted she had never been to one.

She thinks the idea of her being a victim of FGM is pretty outlandish, and so do I, to be honest, if not for the evidence.

I tried to just play it off, make it seem like an interesting curiosity, rather than make a big deal about it. She is anorgasmic as is, and we seem to have a pretty healthy sex life despite it, and I didn’t want to make this into a “thing” before she had time to process it by herself.

Is there any other explanation for this? Can it be a genetic thing? Does anyone have any idea what’s going on? I don’t want to just stick my head in the sand about it, but I also don’t want to freak her out if she’s not freaked out by it.

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